Blog - January Overview

Hi Blog,

As the new year arrives, fewer people ask me about my New Year resolution these days. Maybe people are busy, or maybe they already assume I don’t have one. The truth is, I do have an ultimate aim in life — but I’ve learned that it’s better to stay grounded and realistic than to dress it up into something ambitious-sounding but hollow.

Not every beginning needs noise; some begin with stillness.

When I was younger, like many others — especially when single — my resolutions sounded familiar: eat healthier, work out more, achieve more, move forward faster. Couples seemed different; they had shared motivation and visible milestones ahead of them. As for me, a plain old single guy, my life has been shaped more by responsibility than by ambition — taking care of my mother and siblings, and filling my days with what many might call “boring” activities: hiking, swimming, jogging, blogging, gardening, volunteering, religious work, even cosplaying. These choices don’t always fit the image of someone who looks ready to devote everything to building a conventional family, and over time, they quietly shaped both how others see me and how I see myself.

1st Jan 2026 - Finally, we managed to complete the 2026 New Year celebration activity after a few weeks of planning, including food, songs, decor, and programs. I wish that 2026 will mark a positive beginning for everyone, as well as a period of significant growth for myself.

3rd Jan 2025 - Dragon Teeth Structure
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3rd Jan 2026 - Today, my relatives hosted a BBQ session at Toa Payoh SAFRA. It is convenient to have a BBQ by the swimming pool, so one can jump into the pool right away. I tried to swim (I would, since I was there) but stayed far away from the rest, fearing they would see my body and be disgusted. After having my food, I tried to swim, but I realised I couldn't, because I felt like vomiting. So, there is a saying: never swim after having a meal. I guess it is true.

4th Jan 2026 - I spent the day getting ready to celebrate my mother's birthday. I bought her a cake and flowers a week ago, then hid the cake at the restaurant where we’d be having dinner to surprise her. But honestly, she already expected a birthday cake, so the surprise wasn’t really needed. Happy Birthday to my mum, and thanks to my siblings for being there to celebrate together.

6th Jan 2026 - Honestly, wearing white trunks has started to feel like a heavy burden for me somehow. Maybe as I am getting fatter, I’ve felt more disconnected from them, but I still wore them anyway. Maybe in a few more years, I’ll cut down to just a few pairs I’m comfortable with. After spring cleaning, I’ll sell some of my trunks on Carousel—but does that make me weird for selling my trunks online? :(

7th Jan 2026 - Today I was kind of annoyed by a manager’s comment about my pants being too tight. I thought, can’t you just get over it? No one’s even paying attention to this ugly shxt anymore. Whether they’re tight or not, it’s not like anyone’s going to ask me out or that it will affect my work. All I know is that wearing loose, oversized pants just makes me feel sloppy and older. I wear fitted pants because they make me feel confident and put-together.

8th Jan 2026 - Finally got a chance to go for my first jog of 2026, but it didn’t go well. My big tummy gave me a lot of trouble, and halfway through I felt the urgent need to find a toilet. What a disappointing jogging experience.

9th Jan 2026 - Finally survived the first week of work in 2026, and just as it was about to rain, I managed to squeeze in a short swim. Unfortunately, my camera couldn’t take any pictures because the battery was dead. Oh well… maybe I’ll treat myself to a new one for my birthday. Or perhaps it’s time to stop snapping photos of this eyesore altogether. Oh dear... I started to feel emotional somehow these days...

10th Jan 2026 - Thanks to WY and JY’s group for inviting me to their New Year celebration in the neighbourhood. Wonderful friendship and family vibes. Wishing everyone a healthier spiritual journey in 2026.

So this January, my resolution is not about becoming better in obvious ways. It’s about accepting where I stand, without resentment and without self-deception. If there is progress to be made, I want it to be honest, grounded, and aligned with the life I am actually living — not the life I once imagined.

Jeff