Personal - Swimming Theme #16

Hi Blog,

Friendship is something I have always cherished, same like everyone. I believe that friends come into our lives not by chance but to walk a part of the journey with us. Along the way, there are moments of joy, moments of conflict, and lessons we can only learn through experience. I had a situation with a friend recently that made me think about how important it is to set clear boundaries in relationships, whether it's about money, personal space, or beliefs

What happened reminded me that being kind and understanding doesn't mean I should tolerate feeling uncomfortable. Friendship should be built on mutual respect, and when that respect is crossed, it's important to speak up. In the moment, I might act instinctively to defend or explain myself, but it can be misunderstood or dismissed, making it seem like it's my problem to find a way to express myself without hurting the other person.

Not every friend will instantly understand or accept these boundaries, and some might feel hurt or even distance themselves. While that's never what I want, I've realised I can't control how others react. What I can do is stick to my values while learning forgiveness and kindness on my own. In the end, this approach benefits everyone.

In the end, friendships are tested not only by how much fun we share but also by how we navigate moments of tension and misunderstanding. This experience has reminded me to stand firm yet gentle, to care for others without losing sight of myself, and to let go when holding on no longer feels right. It may not be easy, but I believe every step like this strengthens my journey of growth.

To my friend, thank you for everything, and never forget the memories we’ve shared. But I have my own boundaries, and if they only bring you disappointment and unhappiness, is it fair for me to let them go? I know you’ve made your own adjustments too. So what does that make me in the end? For the greater good, I suppose an iron fist it is. I’m just too weak myself.

Jeff