today I went to my granny's wake.... I was sad that I can't see my granny before she left us.
but today I met this granny, she was my granny's sister. I addressed her as grand aunt granny. she shared to share me a bit of their family background.
Or I should say our family background.
our grandfather was a physician, who had four wives. my granny was belong to the second wife and this grand aunt was the forth wife.
Grand aunt said that our great grand father will spend his money wisely, unmistakably he always categorised as a stingy person. I will say He was a wealthy man due to he can marry four wives.
grand aunt sighed that the whole family seemed falling apart. she summarized the general picture and thoughts in big family with "一种米养百种人。＂
every wife has their own child to take care. Have never treated one another as sister. After my great grand father passed away, the whole family breaking apart.
everyone left and no longer stay in contact until now except our granny and grand aunt. They tried to stay in touch with one another. The rest of the two wives, one stay away from others and another one passed away.
Grand aunt added on that our granny was a kind hearted sister who took good care of her.
I continued to ask her, what about their children? Don't you guys communicate?
she replied, "mother only care for their own children. that's why eventually after grandfather passed away, they went on their own way."
I learned if we Treat other people children like our own. Treat other people parents like our own. Treat everyone the same. Then this world will be peaceful. maybe I will know my other unknown cousins already.
I believe my granny will wish everyone can stay in touch with one another. I will try to do it with whatever we have right now. practice the Art of Appreciation.
Jeff
